How Can I Make Him Love Me?

There once was a quiet little girl who had a very unhappy mommy.  Even though the mommy was very unhappy and angry, this quiet little girl loved her very much and for years would lie in bed at night trying to think of ways to make her mommy love her.

She would make her mommy’s bed every morning.
She would clean the whole house.
She would be very quiet when her mommy was napping.
She would try very hard not to say stupid stuff.
She would try very hard not to cry.

As that quiet little girl, I would work so hard to be  
‘good enough'; hoping that my mom would love me. 

Many years have passed, and I’m now a grown woman with grown children of my own.  I came to know my loving and merciful Savior decades ago.  I’ve had countless moments with my Lord where I’ve been overwhelmed 
by the revelation and reality of His love for me.   

But none can compare with one Sunday morning

sitting in church, when I heard this...   

For the LORD your God is living among you.

He is a mighty savior.

He will take delight in you with gladness.

With His love, He will calm all your fears.

He will rejoice over you with joyful songs. 

Zephaniah 3:17 NLT

After the service, I cornered the pastor and tearfully asked him to explain this verse again.  I remember asking him, “But what do I have to do to get Him to delight in me?”  He quietly said that simply because I’m His daughter and I love Him, He delights in me.  I pretended that I understood, thanked him, and walked away.

Lessons learned young can be very difficult to ‘unlearn’.  It’s taken me many years to believe that my Abba Father delights in me and rejoices over me with singing.  I occasionally still struggle with “If I do this, will He love me more?” 

The whole ‘grace thing’ has been difficult for me.  Surely, I must do something good to make Him love me.  

 And then I look at this picture.

This is a picture of our son and the most adorable grand-baby ever.  I see the look of absolute love and delight on his face as he looks into the eyes of our Emma.  And I see the look of absolute adoration on the face of Emma looking into the eyes of her daddy.  He’s holding her in the palm of his hand.  She’s not doing anything special to make him love her.  She’s just being Emma, his daughter, his delight. 

And I recognize the delight of my own Abba Father…

And it makes me love Him even more.  

Actually, I think that was the plan all along.

I just thought you might need a 
reminder today that 

our Abba Father delights in you and is singing 

a song over you because He loves you… 

Oh, and doesn’t that just make you love Him more?!

Before I leave, I must tell you that some time ago my precious mom also became a daughter of the King.  She’s become such a loving part of my life and the best 

grandma my children could possibly have.  Isn’t it cool 

that He’s delighting in and singing over both of us?  

I love that! 

Do you ever think about God delighting in and singing over you?

Do you sometimes feel that you need to do something to make Him love you more? 

Or perhaps you easily accept His grace-filled love and delight.

I'd love to hear your thoughts.
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There are parts of this song that really spoke to me.
Enjoy!

Living in His grace,

  Mary  
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